Progress Report #5
August 25, 2003
We have been keeping ourselves very busy working on the
beach cottage. It's hard to believe that it's been three months since
we published our last report.
Here's some pictures of the kitchen
BEFORE
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AFTER
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And now, for the effort involved.
Since we started traveling 5
years ago, Mitch and Max have been "road-schooled". Now "home-school"
takes on a new meaning. Follow the blue text throughout this page for the
real purpose of this project and our philosophy about human development.
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In our last report, we were had just finished the framing.
Here, Mitch is preparing the wiring at a switch box before
we cover with the drywall.
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Max is installing the doorbell transformer in the
attic.
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We have read books and listened
to tapes about real estate investment as we drove around North America.
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Before we had a refrigerator in the house, we'd take
our lunch break at a neighborhood cafe or deli. One of our favorite
spots is Voltero's, and it's just a three minute walk from the house.
Ok, back to work! |
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I connected all of the drain fittings together in the
final configuration, but used only one inch lengths of connecting pipe.
I told the boys they would have to figure out the actual installation. |
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It was sure nice having the boys work under the house.
I thought I'd have to do most of the work by myself. Can you
see the trench Mitch is laying in? I had to dig trenches so that
I could fit beneath the girders and low hanging pipes. There's only
about 12 to 16 inches of crawl space. |
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The drain lines are looking good. |
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Here's Mitch soldering the cold water lines. Max
did all of the hot water lines. Max had one leak that burst!
Mitch had two small leaks that sprayed. |
The boys are used to hearing us
talk about real estate projects we've done, but wanted to do one themselves.
This little house has worked out to be just what they wanted.
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After electrical, plumbing and insulation, we hung the
sheet rock (drywall.) |
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I let the boys do the small bedroom by themselves.
(Although they may dispute my use of the word "let.") |
Mitch and Max are at an age where
kids start to move into adulthood. Throughout history, children their
age take on adult responsibilities. Boys would hunt with the men, become
an apprentice, work in dad's store or in the fields. Girls would care for
siblings, prepare meals, gather food, make and wash clothing.
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Taping the drywall -- everyone's favorite; NOT! |
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Time out to watch the Abraham Lincoln pull into port
in San Diego after returning from Iraq. |
The human DNA is programmed over
centuries to take on adult responsibilities in the early teenage years.
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Floor clean-up and painting |
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The new heater is on the back wall and we are installing
the flooring. |
Our modern society no longer requires
teenagers to take on adult roles for the survival of the family and community.
Unfortunately, our genetic composition is programmed to develop adult responsibilities
during this age (12 to 17 years old).
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Max is installing the switches. Both boys learned
how to wire three-way light switches as well as single switches, standard
outlets, and GFCI outlets. |
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Max assembled and installed all of the ceiling fans.
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Without real adult responsibilities
at this critical age, kids may grow up to become irresponsible, lazy, and
dependent on their parents, friends, and society. (Do you know any?)
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After the long, tedious effort of hanging drywall, taping,
and painting, everyone enjoyed assembling the kitchen cabinets. |
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Cabinet installation. |
"Apprenticeship." A single
word that best captures the purpose of this beach cottage.
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Max is working on the counter top. |
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Mitch is installing the hot water tank. |
Our child labor laws protect America's
kids from labor abuse, but has it gone too far? Who gets the blame
for our irresponsible young adults?
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The appliances arrive. No room for the delivery
truck in the narrow alley so they unloaded in the middle of the street.
Max snags the empty refrigerator box. |
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Lunch break at our favorite pizza restaurant at the beach. |
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Mitch is cutting the granite tiles for the kitchen counter
with a wet-saw. They were amazed how I could touch the moving blade
without getting cut, yet the diamond blade would go right through the hard
granite rock. |
Do after school sports, video games,
television, and hanging out with friends provide the developmental challenges
the human body is programmed for?
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I'm placing a piece of granite edging into position. |
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Max testing the garbage disposal. Ha-ha. |
Television is not bad -- our schools
are not broken -- cruising in a car or playing video games are not destructive
to human development, yet all of these activities get blamed for society's
problems. We believe that the lack of adult style work, i.e. apprentice-type
activity with real importance for family and community, is the root cause
of today's problems. Kids, (12 to 17), need to join the men for "The
Hunt", and take on important daily work to mature into a young "man" or
young "woman."
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Hello! |
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Time for new windows |
Kids often ask for responsible activities,
only their words are not clear and their requests may go unrecognized.
Often adults think that a task is too difficult, will take longer, or that
the kids will get in the way if they "help". Kids don't understand what
is happening. They simply say, "I'm bored."
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Staining and cutting trim. Or in Cocoa's case,
watching another bird fly by. |
Suddenly they find themselves
* 18 years old;
* haven't been expected
to perform like an adult when their pre-programmed subconscience wanted
to;
* just graduated from
high school, (maybe);
* skilled at video games,
watching TV, talking with friends on the phone and in chat rooms;
* and now it's time to
step out on their own -- to go to college or get a job, (other than fast
food), and start life as an adult on their own.
For many, this transition to
adulthood starts at the age of 18 or 20. Starting at this late age
can take years to recover. Many "kids" may be 25 years old, or even
older, before they develop or regain a sense of "adultness".
For some, the journey requires
hitting bottom and starting over. "Hitting bottom"? A term
I use to describe a "total" breakdown in the relationship between a young
adult and their family. Although the family is continually trying
to support and help their child, this "help" actually sustains a dependent,
childlike state. Once the family, and even their friends have had
enough, and "totally" abandon the irresponsible young adult, can the adult
inside finally begin to develop. This can be a long and painful process
for all involved.
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